Healing is Hard but So is Hiding

Hey,

You know I’m all for discipline. For showing up. For going hard.
But I’ve got to be real with you this week.

Sometimes the grind is just a distraction.
A mask.
A numbing agent that keeps us from facing what actually needs our attention.

This week, I went to my first therapy session in years and it cracked something wide open.

Not in a breakdown kind of way.
In a breakthrough kind of way.

I realised:
All this working.
All this building.
All this doing.

It had become a wall between me and what I really needed to deal with.

And listen, I’m not saying stop working.
But I am saying: Don’t confuse progress with healing.
You can hit every goal, build the perfect brand, lead a team and still be carrying unprocessed pain that bleeds into everything you do.

Since we’re in Men’s Mental Health Month, let’s really talk about it.

Because for too long, we’ve been taught:
Man up.
Don’t talk about your feelings.
Push through. Get over it.

But what if the very thing you’re trying to push through is the thing you need to sit with?

What if working harder is just hiding deeper?

Here’s what healing can actually do for you:

1. Healing sharpens your decision-making
Unhealed wounds create cloudy judgment.
You start reacting from fear, ego, or insecurity.
Healing brings clarity and clarity makes you dangerous in the best way.

2. Healing improves how you lead and relate
Unhealed people bleed on others.
Whether it’s your team, your partner, your kids, healing makes you safer to be around.
It helps you stop leading from your wounds and start leading from your wholeness.

3. Healing gives you endurance, not just hustle
When you’re constantly fighting internal battles, burnout isn’t far behind.
Healing frees up energy.
It allows you to build with peace, not just pressure.

Non-Negotiable Action for the Week
Schedule 30 minutes with yourself. Journal. Pray. Book that therapy appointment. Talk to someone safe.
Not because you’re weak but because you’re ready to stop carrying what was never meant to be permanent.

Quote of the Week
"If you don’t heal what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you." – Unknown

This isn’t about choosing between healing and hustling.
It’s about understanding that healing makes the hustle actually worth it.

You can be strong and still soft.
You can lead and still be vulnerable.
You can build and still take time to heal.

Stay bold. Stay relentless. Stay whole.
David

P.S. If you’ve been holding things in for too long, now’s the time. Hit reply and tell me what’s something you know it’s time to face? You don’t have to do it alone.